“Surrender Dorothy,” the Wicked Witch of the West wrote in
the sky in the movie “The Wizard of Oz.” What she meant was, “Give up. Stop fighting.
Stop struggling.”
Taken out of the “us vs them” context, that doesn’t sound so
bad. No fighting, no struggling – sounds pretty good, actually.
In Buddhism, surrender is not about handing over our power
to another entity or becoming subservient. It’s about giving up, not giving in
– as the song says, “I’m gonna lay down my sword and shield … ain’t gonna study
war no more.” It’s about surrendering our small, limited concept of ourselves
in order to see the larger, interconnected, fullness of being. We give up the
things that keep us trapped and gain freedom.
Surrender is similar to the concept of renunciation in
Tibetan Buddhism. In “The Wisdom of No Escape,” Pema Chodron writes that “it
has to go with letting go of holding back. What one is renouncing is closing
down and shutting off from life. You could say that renunciation is the same
thing as opening to the teachings of the present moment.”
What we surrender are the self-defensive strategies that
keep us separate from others, that lock us into the self-other binary. Instead
of measuring ourselves and our accomplishments against others, clinging to what
we’ve managed to accumulate, we see that we can be OK without that. “The ground
… is realizing that we already have exactly what we need, that what we have
already is good,” Chodron says.
It’s also seeing that everyone stands on that same ground,
that everyone is inherently whole and worthy of respect and dignity. If we are
truly living in that place, there’s no need to struggle, to fight for a bigger
piece of the pie, to try to defeat everyone else and come out on top.
Letting go, surrendering the things that keep us apart and
opposed ends the struggle and lets us relax.
“The purpose of a spiritual discipline is to give us a way
to stop the war, not by our force of will, but organically, through
understanding and gradual training,” Jack Kornfield writes in “A Path with
Heart.” … “When we let go of our battles and open our hearts to things as they
are, then we can come to rest in the present moment.”
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